Today, I would like to share one last peek into Juli Slattery’s new book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy. Last week, I discussed a couple of those questions about sex and marriage, and today I would like to look at the last two:
Chapter 24: How do we fight without hurting each other?
After hearing many marriage experts say that fighting is an unavoidable part of marriage, I am cheering to hear Dr. Slattery say that fighting is actually optional. Yes! It is inevitable that two different people will have two different perspectives, but fighting is optional.
That is some good news to share! There are healthy ways to work through differences without resorting to fighting.
Here are several quotes from this chapter:
Most important issues in a marriage don’t have to be resolved today. … Although it may feel like you need resolution, find your own peace in bringing the issue before the Lord before seeking peace with your spouse. (page 203)
God is teaching me that I could win every argument and still lose my marriage. That perspective helps me practice the self-control and humility required to do conflict well. (205)
Switching from a pattern of fighting … means refusing to make your spouse the enemy and being patient to wait until the right time and setting to talk the issues through in a loving manner. (206)
You’ll get no fight from me on those points.
Chapter 25: Why wouldn’t God want me to be happy?
This kind of thinking can really trip us up, can’t it?
Here are some of Juli’s thoughts on this topic:
My friend, it requires great faith living within our fallen world to believe that honoring God with every relationship and sexual choice is worthwhile. You may be teased, mocked, and have some lonely seasons. Even then, your loving Father is for your deepest joy. (215)
The question is not about how much God loves you, but how much you love Him. … It is in loving Him and seeking Him that you will find your greatest happiness. (215)
Yes, that’s right! God longs to love us better than we could ever love ourselves. We can trust Him.
Again, I recommend this very practical book by Juli Slattery.
How you live out your sexuality may seem like a personal decision, but it also tells the world what you believe about God. (214)
I have one copy of 25 Questions to give away, courtesy of Moody Publishers. If you are interested in a chance to win, simply leave a comment on this post or reply by email. You may enter the drawing more than once, but no later than November 10.
Blessings to you,
Tami
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